Category: Love
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Sex and Vacuuming : A Game of Mutual Selfishness
Kathy Lette’s If Your Wife Doesn’t Want Sex Then Try Doing the Vacuumming article echoes the Annabel Crabb‘s The Wife Drought re having it all and needing a wife. Like the old expression, “Love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage“, there isn’t much of that anymore. Yes, unfortunately, I’ve heard this all before. In the throes […]
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Mothers Day is for Everyone
It was Mothers Day. That Sunday we (my then second wife Tracey and I) were with my youngest sons for their access visit and sleepover. That Sunday morning, I quizzed my sons. Did you give your mother a card for Mothers Day? Yes, they chorused. Did you want to phone her? Yes! A quick […]
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Rumi’s Puzzle of Love
Though long deceased, the Persian poet Rumi regularly sends me quotes on Facebook. Last week’s quote was “To find the Beloved, you must become the Beloved.” I was puzzled. And I tried to analyse it. And became more puzzled. So this time took my advice to others: when puzzled, describe don’t explain! So while I’m […]
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Of Happier Things
And now to speak of happier things as my Dad says. As you may have already read, my sister was married last week. How I did behave at her reception? Perfectly. Well almost. I spoke to anyone and everyone. I said this wedding shows the good you do returns to you. Let there be more […]
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The Wedding Dress
My sister was married last weekend. The only inconvenience on the wedding day was this. Our hotel room was makeup and hair curling central. Which means that around 8 am we had to be out! In the end we returned three quarters of an hour before the ceremony. I softly knocked on the room […]
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I’m Better Than I Looked
Last weekend I travelled from Melbourne to Nowra for my sister’s wedding. As the designated passenger I received a phone call. The news was my dad had fallen and was now in hospital. As I result my brother and sister in law altered course to see him. When we arrived Dad (in his eighties) looked […]
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The Happiness Test
After a break up I was asked what happened! Here are the questions that match the answers: Do I make the other person happy? Does the other person make me happy? Do I want to make the other person happy? Does the other person want to make me happy?
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The Empathy Gene
Several years ago, my three year old son asked me the question I will never forget. “Daddy, are you happy?” And that time, my marriage had completely disintegrated. I wasn’t happy. Almost silenced, I think I said yes. But he knew I wasn’t happy. I mean how could he know? Why would he ever ask? Did I father […]
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On Unselfish Love…
There is almost an obsession with being loved unselfishly. Out there is the perfect person who will supply your needs forever. Your mission impossible is to find that person, convince them to love you and you will be happy forever. And you will love them back, but secondly. Unfortunately, this love is the one that […]
Andrew James Whalan 